​Valerian Ruminski                  American Opera Singer

   For about six months now there has been an issue with a person who wants to post and maintain a website using my name and posting things as if they are me. This person believes this website is a 'gift' or a 'favor' and seems to believe that I should be grateful and participate in the maintenance. This person is trying to 'make peace' with me and believes the website is some kind of bridge to fix the past. It is not.

If someone buys you a car without asking for it and you do not want it then it is your choice to have the car returned. It is not your fault that the person bought the car for you and expects you to keep it. It is not

the responsibility of anyone to keep any 'gift' they receive if they do not want it and it is not their fault if

they choose to give it back. 

   For almost 8 months now I have been completely silent and unresponsive to this person and they are angry about that. But, instead of being reasonable, they are insisting on trying to repair a bridge that will not be fixed. If someone does not want to have communications with another person you do not hold a gun to their head and force them, you do not coerce them, you do not hound them or, even worse, insult them and belittle them and try to hurt them with gossip and deletorious actions.You do not send hundreds of emails and texts to them. You do not pose as other people and try to fool them into talking to you. You do not bother their relatives, their freinds. You do not show up at peoples houses and drop letters into their mailboxes. You do not surprise someone showing up thousands of miles away where you are not wanted and it has been made clear that you are not wanted. You do not insinuate yourself into someone else's business and take it upon yourself to try to create business for someone else and represent them when you do not wish to be represented. You do not barrage professional associations with hundreds of emails and texts in order to get information or attack someone. If you are blocked on emails and texts you do not create loads of new emails and phone numbers to continue bothering the person. If you are blocked it means the person does not want to speak to you and you must be mature enough to say "Okay, I can see I am not welcome, I will stop". Doing otherwise means you do not have respect for the person at all. Why would a person who is bothered and harassed in such a way want to be freinds with the person bothering them? It is illogical. You do not continue to linger after more than 8 months of rejections. No.  You take your website and your intentions and you go home and find someone else to relate to. You move on. There comes a point where actions like these pass from being reasonable to being odd and then to being absurd and destructive. That is where this situation is. 

   I hope that everyone who reads this will disregard the 'other' valerianruminski dot com website and realize that it is not there because I want it there. Much to the opposite. It is there because I do not want it there and this person is insisting that I 'appreciate it' and use it. This person has given me a limited ability to alter and change some of the things on the website which I did not ask for. But if I try to remove the website it is restored like some horrible nightmare that is impossible to get rid of. That is not a gift, that is an albatross. I do not want help from this person. I do not want advice or opinions. My life, whatever it is, is my life. It is not your business. However I choose to succeed or fail is MY business. I choose to continue my life without your views, critiques or aid. My simple request is: Please stop all communications with me. Take down the website. Stop bothering me and stop bothering people around me. Stop doing things to harm me, my life and my profession. Every time you do something vindictive and angry against me just know that that is the reason why your presence is not appreciated in my life. You are unpredictable, a liar, an imposter posing as other people, an angry and bitter and vindictive soul that relentlessly bothers whoever you feel you want to bother in order to get what you want, no matter how much it hurts. You waste large amounts of time every day on a person who wants you to go away even though you have responsibilties to your work and your family. Spend your time on your own life, not me. Stop being angry at someone who has been COMPLETELY SILENT for almost the entire year and done nothing but cease all communications and will continue to cease all communications. Go away! Leave me alone! Bother someone else! The time has come. All things come to an end. Life is short. Stop wasting your time on things that are frivolous and are going nowhere. 

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